Well I figured out how to train properly with a little help from LazyTrainer :P
1 repeat, 50 epochs, learning rate of 16e-5 from a dataset of 45 images.
Works at strength 1, her looks are consistent but are still helped by "short hair, black hair, blue hair, colored inner hair, choker".
v1.0 is redundant, replace completely, or don't, I can't tell you what to do.